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Every summer, I give advice to incoming freshmen as they prepare to begin their college careers. I encourage them to take this advice for what it is worth, but I also tell them that ĚÇĐÄVlog staff members are excited to welcome new students “home” every year — pandemic or no. Here’s some of that advice:

New students must complete online courses prior to the start of each semester on alcohol education, sexual assault prevention and diversity, equity and inclusion. These topics are all extremely relevant and important. I encourage you to take them seriously.

Look over the Community Creed. Remember, as Catamounts, this is what we stand for. You will be held to the Creed whether you have read it or not — better to read it now.

Think about how you would like to say “goodbye” to your parents/guardians/special people. Don’t save those emotions for move-in day. Write a letter, get a card or sit down and talk to them. Show your appreciation for getting you this far, and let them know you’ll miss them. Trust me, you’ll miss them more than you think.

I’m not going to tell you to break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner — although that Orientation speech from Sam Miller (vice chancellor for student affairs), urging against bringing a sandwich to a smorgasbord, is funny. You do need to think about how that relationship will work when it turns long distance. If you get pissed off every time your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner “likes” a picture of someone on Instagram, do yourself a favor and end it.

Do you have younger siblings? I’ve seen younger siblings struggle when you leave for college. Get a card, write a note and mail it to them after a week or so. Let them know you’ll miss them. They’re likely looking up to you more than you realize.

Think about your relationship with alcohol — or any substance, for that matter. Believe it or not, everyone in college does not drink. We’re not here to judge you. Ultimately, you must make your own decisions. Just be ready to be held accountable for those choices.

Email your professors, introduce yourself and let them know you look forward to their classes. They work hard to prepare lectures, grade papers and teach. Let them know you appreciate it. At the end of the semester, it won’t hurt your grade when they see you have shown genuine interest in the class.

Be prepared to handle your own problems. It is OK to vent to your parents/guardians, but don’t expect them to fight your battles. You are an adult and should act accordingly.

Be yourself. Don’t worry about impressing anyone else or worry about what others think. No one can be you better than you can. Just worry about being the best person you can be.

Do not miss class. Ever. If you absolutely have to, the responsible thing to do is notify your instructors, let them know what’s going on, apologize and ask about what you missed. Some classes will not have an attendance policy. But don’t miss class. Ever. Half the battle is being there.

The other half of the battle is hard work. You’ll get points for attendance in some classes, but you won’t pass or get a decent grade just for showing up. Engage in class, speak up, show interest and take notes.

Care as much about your classes on the first day as you do on the last. Right before finals, people suddenly become concerned about grades and start to freak. Have that kind of concern for each of your classes on Day One.

You can’t care about the consequences of your behavior after you get caught. Don’t want your parents to know you got caught drinking alcohol or smoking pot? Don’t do it. So many students cry over their parents finding out about them getting in trouble. But obviously, you didn’t care enough about that before, because it did not change your behavior.

Get involved. Statistics don’t lie — you’ll be happier and more successful if you get engaged in your college experience. Greek Life? Want to be an RA? ? ? There really is something for everyone. 

Come with an open mind. You’ll be exposed to many things with which you may not agree — religion, sexuality, politics — and that’s OK. You can disagree and still be respectful.

Finally, remember you’ve chosen to come to a university that genuinely cares about you and your experience. We think you made a good choice. We’re 100 percent in your corner, pulling for you. You got this!

And even when you don’t, we got you!

Brian Boyer, residential case manager in ĚÇĐÄVlog’s Department of Residential Living, Is the 2020 recipient of the university’s Paul A. Reid Distinguished Service Award for Administrative Staff in recognition of his commitment to student success.